Yesterday marked two years for my husband and I being married. I was so overwhelmed with amazement toward how we made it this far. We didn’t just cross the finish line limping. We are stronger and more in love than ever.
I spoke a bit on my Instagram story yesterday about all we had been through during these two years.
I feel blessed for the grace that is upon our marriage. We have faced tremendous trials and refinement, times we thought the struggle would never end.
I wanted to elaborate on a few things I’ve learned through the constant transition we have had to endure.
Trust is a huge need in marriage whether or not you’re in a season of transition. Specifically for us, it was a highlight because we had nothing else BUT that at times. We had to really remember to trust each other when everything in front of us seems to be going up in flames. We had to form a pattern of trusting your spouse always has the best intentions toward you as well as YOU yourself showing up as a trustworthy and dependable spouse!
Being patient seems so simple to remember but surprisingly it can be a hard one to master under pressure. I’ve had to be patient when I speak to Tarik, ensuring my words are edifying and loving to him. Putting forth an effort to make sure he knows I recognize though we are different I appreciate the differences in each of us. Taking time to honor who your spouse is even when its not convenient.
Screw The Haters
I know this one sounds funny but let’s be real, there are haters who try you sometimes. They will always have something negative to say about a choice you make. They may be trying to pin you against your spouse. Don’t fall into this trap. The opinions of others will test your marriage. My husband and I both struggled to know what a healthy marriage is supposed to “look like” while in that process we established healthy boundaries within our little family to protect it. Set boundaries with your parents, siblings, in-laws, and friends! Especially if those around you aren’t married or don’t have a healthy marriage themselves they may be the main ones to test you. Most times they don’t even know better. Give them grace and set a strong foundation. Establishing a healthy foundation at the beginning is the KEY. What patterns you set now will most likely continue through the rest of your marriage.
I hope this blesses you love birds!